The 2 Routes
Friend H and I were sitting on the bus on one of those lazy afternoon trips when I remarked about how Friend I should probably be enjoying his date at that point in time. H replied that it's interesting how Friend I reports the little things that happened during dates, considering that H has gone through all that before and is now more seasoned and a lot more cynical.
"But you see, I think he likes the part of being together with a girl. I don't think he really likes the girl."
Whoa. That's a heavy accusation to level against your close friend, pal.
"He enjoys the hand-holding, listening to things from a girl's point of view, doing things that would never happen with guy friends. But those things come with every girl. I've never heard him say what's so special about this particular girl that he finds charming."
So you're saying he likes the medium, not the subject? Kinda like watching movies cos you like the darkened hall?
"But the thing is, loads of people do fall into that trap. People don't realise that while that bit of being attached is attractive, it's only supposed to be the icing. The real cake is the person. At the end of it all, the trick is to find something special with the girl, not the perks with being with a girl."
Whoa, heavy.
And it really is unfortunate that I still notice people falling for that trap all around me. What friend H said really does make sense, and I might have secretly vowed not to fall for that trap myself. However, it's so easy to get back down that route. Blame it on testosterone. Blame it on endorphine addiction. But how often do people realise that they're going down one path and not the other? Don't the paths look eerily similar? What's wrong with people who love darkened cinema halls anyway?
Okay, nothing is wrong with darkened cinema halls. But there might be repercussions if human feelings are involved. The good news is, logically speaking, it is possible to bash towards the other route once we find out that we're going down the wrong route. All is not lost. Unless of course you lose your way while bashing. In which case.... ask for directions. -Jimmy
"But you see, I think he likes the part of being together with a girl. I don't think he really likes the girl."
Whoa. That's a heavy accusation to level against your close friend, pal.
"He enjoys the hand-holding, listening to things from a girl's point of view, doing things that would never happen with guy friends. But those things come with every girl. I've never heard him say what's so special about this particular girl that he finds charming."
So you're saying he likes the medium, not the subject? Kinda like watching movies cos you like the darkened hall?
"But the thing is, loads of people do fall into that trap. People don't realise that while that bit of being attached is attractive, it's only supposed to be the icing. The real cake is the person. At the end of it all, the trick is to find something special with the girl, not the perks with being with a girl."
Whoa, heavy.
And it really is unfortunate that I still notice people falling for that trap all around me. What friend H said really does make sense, and I might have secretly vowed not to fall for that trap myself. However, it's so easy to get back down that route. Blame it on testosterone. Blame it on endorphine addiction. But how often do people realise that they're going down one path and not the other? Don't the paths look eerily similar? What's wrong with people who love darkened cinema halls anyway?
Okay, nothing is wrong with darkened cinema halls. But there might be repercussions if human feelings are involved. The good news is, logically speaking, it is possible to bash towards the other route once we find out that we're going down the wrong route. All is not lost. Unless of course you lose your way while bashing. In which case.... ask for directions. -Jimmy
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